Mary Lawrenson
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Cc:maryalaw33@gmail.com
19 Jul at 10:45
Hi all, I thought it would be a useful thing to have a group email so that we are all involved in agreeing the arrangements for mums burial ?
Pauline and me are in contact with the priest about the service that mum asked for. The flyer below will go out to all people living here on Scoraig.
We have agreed with Lisa the food arrangements and we are now on with sending photos to Midge to print off to put up at the centre and to use in a slide show - both will be in the community centre after the burial - so please send any photos you want to have included to Midge and me.
After having soup and a buffet at the community centre we thought we'd go on to have a few drinks and some music that we played at mums 90th , songs that she mostly chose.
Stephen and me have talked the arrangements through with Malcolm and Mary and he seems to be in general agreement though I don't think a lot of it is sinking in....
In regards to the order and making space for personal messages about mum this is how it's looking so far but PLEASE say if you don't agree or want to add anything.....
Mum brought across the loch at 9.00am by the funeral directors and placed in pier shed - people on Scoraig will sort out flowers in the pier shed and put on tea, coffee and cakes from 10.30 onwards ( it will be around 4 hours before anyone eats again at the community centre)
Priest arrives on a 10.15 ferry
Service starts at 11.00
Denis -Eulogy at the beginning of the service
Pauline & Mary Alston bible readings at the service
2 hymns mum chose to be played during the service -
Be still for the Presence of the Lord and The Lord is my Shepherd
After the service Malcolm to say something ( supported by Mary Alson to pick it up if too much for Malcolm) and then anyone else in the family to say anything they want ( including us, grandchildren and Mary & Johanna). Then we will invite people from Scoraig to say anything they want.
Then Mums last chosen song Fields of Athenry played and sung before taking her coffin down the jetty into Red Rose. The Priest may want to say something as she is taken to the boat and away. Family and Scoraigers who can't walk over will follow Red Rose in other boats.
You fella's need to decide who will carry mums coffin to the boat, off the boat and up to the graveyard - you will likely need 2 groups of bearers to take her up to the grave as its about a 5 minute walk up a slight hill... please can grandchildren and fella's of the family be included at this point? Also people living here may also want to help carry her at some point?
At the graveside if the priest isn't there someone needs to lead things....? Then, so far Stephen wants to sing a song for mum, I'd like Mark to read a Yeats poem for mum, then any family will be invited to say anything they want, followed by people living on Scoraig.
Then we put mum into the grave - I suggest we leave this to people living on Scoraig as they know how to use the ropes to make it a smooth process...?
I was thinking then that anyone who wants to put things in the grave - flowers/ mementos can do so at this point and then I wondered about everyone who wants to can join in with a final song 'Danny Boy' led by William and accompanied by Mark on tin whistle.
These are only suggestions - Let me know If you are ok with them or is there anything you want to change or add in? Let's be sure we are all in agreement with how it will go so that we all feel mum has had the send off that she wanted and that it all goes how we want it to go and of course we need to make sure that Malcolm is happy with what we are suggesting, though Stephen and me have already run a lot of it by him.
Mary Xx |
